Gender issues

I've been growing more and more comfortable into what I am today, physically in exact. Aside being larger these days, which is still unacceptable for myself since I last gained about 10kg since I moved to Thailand for the past 2 years, I've been morphing into this look where I think it's been hard for others to identify what gender I am? 

I think, that others could be guessing :-

a) I am a tomboy or 

b) I am a gay boy or 

c) I am a straight boy with a feminine touch

Sorry I didn't meant to boast, but I have quite a fair bit of girls hitting on me and even several gay men! I think they didn't know or was afraid to ask.

It's a good news that the states had just legalized gay marriages, and many people has gained their rights as partners. But here am I, in Asia, still hoping for the same. I know it's still quite impossible for this to happen though.

While at work today, I met this 2 lovely middle aged African American ladies, Van and Lisa, we had a nice small chat and they liked me a lot and jokingly said they'd like to take me back to US in their luggage since I told them that I've never been there and visa is such a pain in the ass for Malaysians. After that I said goodbye thinking I'd never see them again. Well this is my job, I need to be constantly talking to people.

A couple of hours later, they came back and needed my help to speak to the taxi driver to get them back to their hotel since I could speak a little Thai, perhaps it was just an excuse. Before they got into the taxi. Lisa pulled me aside and asked "before we go, we just wanted to ask you something", then she pointed to her rainbow bracelet and asked "in your culture, does this mean anything to you?". I was caught off guard and was a little blur and answered carefully "um.. gay pride?", and I still couldn't get what message is she trying to convey and she continued "we don't mean to offend you, but we've been wondering whole evening... Are you...?", I suddenly got the whole picture and laughed so loud "Of course I am, what have you been thinking?!", then I responded stupidly and asked "are you too??" then Lisa and Van both said "are you kidding? of course we are, why do you thinking we had this bracelet on?". And I was still a little confused as earlier on, Van told me her ex-husband used to work in Malaysia. Then Van continued "I WAS married to him, everyone makes mistakes don't they?" Lisa then jokingly said "and also why do you think I said you're cute and I wanted to put you in my suitcase and take you back to the states?".

It was quite an evening, we chatted a little as they asked how did my parents take it or whether do they know if I'm 'different', I congratulated them on the legalization of gay marriage in their country, we took pictures and they gave me a big hug before leaving.

Before they walked to the taxi, I bitterly told them "I hope the same for Asia. I've been seeing this girl from here, and it seems like there's no way I could stay here or even she could stay in my country". They replied "be patient and keep believing, it will happen one day."